Posted by TiquisiaPrincess on July 2, 2008 at 8:49 a.m. (Suggest removal)

Interesting, it's "accidental death" but preliminary investigation suggests she was placed at the location the found her at. I'm assuming she was placed there after she was dead, and how can you actually know it was "accidental" if she was placed there intentionally. I can only hope and assume they have more information to prove it was "accidental". Either way, it's tragedy and my prayers go out to her family.

Posted by Adam_Monroe on July 2, 2008 at 8:51 a.m. (Suggest removal)

Could be that she was overdosing and her dope-fiend friends didnt want to take her to an ER...

All speculation of course...this article gives very little info since it is still as of yet unavailable...

Posted by hotwildflower on July 2, 2008 at 8:57 a.m. (Suggest removal)

JUST SAY NO!!

Posted by Hueneme_girl29 on July 2, 2008 at 9:05 a.m. (Suggest removal)

I agree Tiquisia -
Who "placed" her there? Was she still alive? No matter what the consequences may be, or what you think they may be, if you have a friend that is overdosing, and you are scared to take them to the ER - just do it, you could save someones life. I'd rather be busted for being high than dead. I bring this up of course, if it was, in fact what Adam Monroe suggested. So young - prayers to her family.

Posted by hotwildflower on July 2, 2008 at 9:14 a.m. (Suggest removal)

"I'd rather be busted for being high than dead."

I'm sorry, that made me laugh...

Posted by jacmac on July 2, 2008 at 9:21 a.m. (Suggest removal)

Right in my neighborhood. I have teenagers and this chills me to the bone. No one had the brains to call for help? What were her friends thinking? Unbelievable.

Posted by daugtherofimmigrant on July 2, 2008 at 9:29 a.m. (Suggest removal)

If this location is a popular party place, are cops going out there to make it "unpopular" I remember growing up, there was a "popular place" outside of town, everybody knew about it and it was "the" place to go get drunk and who knows what else, until police made it a point to drive by every other night until kids stopped going there. I am so sick and tired of hearing about these stories, popular hang out places then kids end up dead. Wasn't that kid from Newbury Park who was driving with his friends also coming back from another "popular hang out place"? I am sure kids will always find a place to do what they do, but if cops just kept going after them, I am sure it would help some?

Posted by Hueneme_girl29 on July 2, 2008 at 9:33 a.m. (Suggest removal)

hotwildflower - you know what I mean! :)

Posted by hisgrl on July 2, 2008 at 9:38 a.m. (Suggest removal)

People these days don’t think about the consequences if they don’t do something. They were to worried about themselves going to jail for doing drugs they did not think about this poor girl dying. Well the guilt should eat them alive and maybe just maybe some one will say something.

Posted by oxnard40 on July 2, 2008 at 9:38 a.m. (Suggest removal)

With friends like that...

OK, they were high, drunk, all of the above. That stuff happens.

But for the friends to let this girl die without a 911 call or an attempt to take her to the ER is plain negligence. Someone should be held accountable.

Posted by bugmenot on July 2, 2008 at 9:40 a.m. (Suggest removal)

My friend found a body at the dump about a year ago. The body was in a barrel and the limbs were removed forcefully. Very gruesome. Read in the paper a couple days/weeks later that it was an overdose. I thought for sure it was going to be a homicide. First impressions might not be what they seem.

RIP to this young lady. My condolences to her family.

Posted by oxnard40 on July 2, 2008 at 9:40 a.m. (Suggest removal)

To clarify, ER is ment to be Emergency Room
not El Rio.

Posted by vwhunter on July 2, 2008 at 9:56 a.m. (Suggest removal)

Darwin.

Posted by Ms_California on July 2, 2008 at 10:01 a.m. (Suggest removal)

I would hope you wouldn't take a dying person to ER (El Rio) well I guess they would die there anyway from a gunshot wound.

Posted by hotwildflower on July 2, 2008 at 10:19 a.m. (Suggest removal)

Sorry Hueneme_girl, I know there is a family hurting right now and I didn't mean to make light of this story...but that statement stuck me a little funny.

I'm very sorry for this loss! :(

Unfortunately, this is one more story to share with our kids about the dangers of drugs.

Posted by LivinInPoorMansPV on July 2, 2008 at 10:25 a.m. (Suggest removal)

Police officers need to make there quotas. Every officer i see lately is just looking for seat belt & cel phone violaters. There is no money, in telling people to disperse from "popular hang out spots".

I think "protect and serve" got thrown out the window a long time ago. With illegal immigrants and more gangsters with guns......this all cost the agenices lots of $$$$$, and you can't make any money off of illegals and gangsters, no se no se.

Cops just let them go, and are glad they didnt get shot at!

Posted by BeaHappi on July 2, 2008 at 10:38 a.m. (Suggest removal)

Wow, this is very sad. If she was "put" there, then are the police looking for the person or people who left her there?

I get it - they didn't want to get in trouble but come on...leaving someone by the side of the road? That's just horrific.

My condolences to her family. Can you even imagine getting that phone call?

Posted by daugtherofimmigrant on July 2, 2008 at 10:41 a.m. (Suggest removal)

LivininPoorMansPV - isn't using illegal drugs a crime? They can surely write up a ticket for that no? Perhaps an arrest, If this place is considered private property then that would be another reason for another ticket. I don't know just throwing out ideas. Heck I think they would be meeting quotas left and right!

Posted by BeaHappi on July 2, 2008 at 10:47 a.m. (Suggest removal)

"Every officer i see lately is just looking for seat belt & cel phone violaters."

Wow, you're amazing if you can tell what the police are doing just by driving by and looking at them.

Sorry, but that's a ridiculous comment. The police deal with more crap then we'll ever know. I hardly think that this girls' death is the fault of police officers who were only looking to ticket for seat belt and cell phone violations.

Get real!

Posted by SUNNY on July 2, 2008 at 11:18 a.m. (Suggest removal)

Veracious1 I agree!! There should be some kind of program like that! I believe her "friends" did just dump her there because they were afraid! It's so very sad!

Posted by BeaHappi on July 2, 2008 at 11:26 a.m. (Suggest removal)

I like the safe haven idea. Obviously we don't know the details here but I can't imagine dumping a friend, who needed help, because I was afraid of getting in trouble.

How could you ever live with that 'blood on your hands' so to speak?

Posted by bugmenot on July 2, 2008 at 11:48 a.m. (Suggest removal)

BeaHappi, these people usually aren't friends, just acquaintances that share the same hobbies. Some drugs rob people's souls (meth).

Posted by bugmenot on July 2, 2008 at 11:50 a.m. (Suggest removal)

TheVeracious1, which agency?

Posted by NightLight on July 2, 2008 at 12:32 p.m. (Suggest removal)

The Darwin comment wasn't necessary. I don't know how some people can be so unfeeling when someone has lost her life.

Condolences to the family and friends, no one deserves to be abandoned on the side of a road to die. It reminds me of the story of another young woman not too long ago who was under the influence and wandering naked on the freeway at night, I think she was struck and killed by a vehicle. What a tragic way for a young life to end.

Posted by stave1 on July 2, 2008 at 12:33 p.m. (Suggest removal)

My sister and daughter went to a club up in agoura a couple of months ago. When they arrived there a girl was passed out on the dance floor. My sister went to her and couldn't find a pulse. She started CPR and had them call for an ambulance. When my sister's head was turned The girls friends whisked her off. So when the ambulance got there the girl could not be found. We still don't know what happened to her.

I'm very sorry for the friends and family of this young girl.

Just a thought.....This might look like a simple overdose....but it might not be. The police don't want to waste time really checking something out. Unless, your using your cell phone and don't have your seat belt on....

Posted by BeaHappi on July 2, 2008 at 1:12 p.m. (Suggest removal)

"Some drugs rob people's souls"

bugmenot...well, that would explain it. How he/she/they could just leave someone at the side of the road.

Which makes this all the more tragic...

Posted by mIssSIdekIck on July 2, 2008 at 1:32 p.m. (Suggest removal)

Wow stave1 that was really nice of your sister & daughter to do! Very nice... hopefully that grl that was on the floor ended up being okay... yes alot of kids ignore to do the right thing just so they wont get caught in what they were doing! Very sad story this is knowing she was only 20yrs old.

Posted by Ms_California on July 2, 2008 at 2:25 p.m. (Suggest removal)

It is terrible. Friends (or so they call themselves) do terrible things sometimes. I mean they think of themselves before the health or life of their friends. I personally could not do that, I could not live with myself knowing that someone I cared about I left to die or suffer. Look at these kids who play that choking game. They participate in the hurting their friends. Some people just have no morals or values anymore.

Posted by justmeinsp on July 2, 2008 at 2:47 p.m. (Suggest removal)

how horribly sad for this girl's family. the next time they hear that commercial that says "parents, do you know where your children are", they'll say "yes..."

sad, sad, sad situation... and I hope a learning lesson for others her age that think it's cool to get loaded til they pass out... they could not wake-up from it to talk about the "good time" they had...

Posted by Comments on July 2, 2008 at 2:51 p.m. (Suggest removal)

TheVeraciousOne - I knew Tia and I am friends with her parents. I had no idea that calls had been made to the police. What I do know is that Tia was a lovely young woman who made a mistake that ended tragically. Her parents are amazing parents and the world would be a better place if there were more moms in the world like Mary.

None of us knows what happened to this young woman and only time will unravel the details. If her friends did indeed leave her on the side of the road without calling for help then shame, shame, shame on them. I'm sorry for this family's loss. My heart hurts for them.

Posted by oxnardraised on July 2, 2008 at 2:59 p.m. (Suggest removal)

OK SO WHERE'S KEYSERSOZE???

Posted by fungus on July 2, 2008 at 3:28 p.m. (Suggest removal)

I am Kayser Soze.

Posted by princess2891 on July 2, 2008 at 3:44 p.m. (Suggest removal)

Rest in Peace Kaylin...you will be greatly missed. We all love you very much.

Posted by LivinInPoorMansPV on July 2, 2008 at 3:47 p.m. (Suggest removal)

I know Bea I use to work for LAPD. I was only commenting in relation to a prior comment. I was not the one blaming any agency, I was only agreeing that it seems as though officers are more busy fighting other crimes these days, then hanging out at the "popular place" where minors go to do illegal things.

I think some people think they are protecting the person OD'ing by not calling for help.... not only themselves....we'll probably never know.

Posted by shuldbworkin805 on July 2, 2008 at 4:45 p.m. (Suggest removal)

I missed where in the article it says that her friends abandoned her.

Very sad story. My prayers go out to her family. It really reinforces to me how precious life is and my own feelings of invincibility when I was young.

Posted by BeaHappi on July 2, 2008 at 5:14 p.m. (Suggest removal)

It doesn't say that her friends abandoned her but the article states that she "was placed on the side of the road..."

So the comments about her being abandoned are directed at the person or people who placed her on the side of the road.

Posted by rubberbandball on July 3, 2008 at 12:02 a.m. (Suggest removal)

I knew kaylin personally and I know the person she was with at the time of her death. From what I know from talking to his best friend, by the time he realized she was overdosing she was dead and out of panic he left her body. What he did was not right but he loved Kaylin along with me and our friends and would never purposely do anything to hurt her.

RIP Kaylin my love

Posted by r.gyurkovitz on July 3, 2008 at 5:42 a.m. (Suggest removal)

I don't think a safe haven law would necessarily protect someone where death resulted. The acquaintance could be charged with a host of crimes up to (and including) third degree manslaughter if the police believe it was an accident and second degree murder if they don't.

Mix in the fact that you aren't necessarily capable of coherent thought when using some drugs and possibly in no condition to either accurately assess cardiopulmonary function or perform CPR and this outcome isn't at all surprising, though no less tragic.

Posted by daugtherofimmigrant on July 3, 2008 at 8:11 a.m. (Suggest removal)

rubberbandball - I pray that no one ever loves me the way you say her "bestfriend" loved her.

"never do anything purposely to hurt her" WTF??? If my best friend is dying or dead I don't care what the hell I am doing or did I call and ask for help! Unless I was high myself, then who knows what the hell I am thinking.

Posted by zany on July 3, 2008 at 8:18 a.m. (Suggest removal)

It is entirely possible the girl passed out and died without her friends knowing, as they might have been high too. Perhaps by the time anyone figured it out it was too late, they got scared and put her somewhere to be found. A little morbid I know but kids don't always have the ability to think properly and "do the right thing". If she overdosed it was her doing, not theirs. Stuff happens. I know--I have teenagers!

Posted by BeaHappi on July 3, 2008 at 8:58 a.m. (Suggest removal)

daugtherofimmigrant...I totally agree! So now, this guy who "loved" her gets to live with the fact that he just dumped her on the side of the road.

I guess we can only hope that he and others close to her have learned their lesson and will cut out the partying. Somehow though, I doubt it.

A fitting tribute to their friend would be to make sure this NEVER happened to another friend again.

Posted by daugtherofimmigrant on July 3, 2008 at 9:54 a.m. (Suggest removal)

The possibilities of what happened are endless. Overdosing is definitely her doing, I agree, and if you die and your by yourself, then so sad, nothing anyone could have done. But if someone could have had the opportinity to help her or atleast report that she was there then that was their doing as well, they let her die and if she was dead, they left their "beloved best friend" until someone else found her.

Posted by Iamapalled on July 3, 2008 at 12:41 p.m. (Suggest removal)

Rubberbandball- wow!? That is all I have to say. What drugs are you on to create your process of thinking to be so delusional? Honestly? You basically in your statement are professing an excuse and handing allowance to the piece of SH&* who did this to her!!! I am appalled that such comments would be made after such a tragic event! I live in Fallbrook and forces all across the US have been working on crime, gang and drug activity for years and have just caught a huge group of people that were trafficking and harming peoples' lives! By harming I mean bringing these drugs, violence and stabbings into our communities and creating an unsafe atmosphere. The seatbelt and cell phone laws are all safety issues that do save several accidents a day believe it or not!

Posted by ValerinaS on July 3, 2008 at 2:53 p.m. (Suggest removal)

This is so sad and tragic. If it had been preventable, and she could have been saved but was surrounded by people too high or too scared to get her to an emergency room, even MORE tragic. "Popular hang out spots" for kids will always exist, maybe the cops didn't even know it was popular, and they are just reporting what was said by her friends of the location, who knows. There isn't a whole lot of information period. It sounds like she took a fatal dose of something though. She may have already been dead before anyone realized it though as well. That is the risk every person who tries drugs takes. No one knows the limits, and no one knows who, if anyone, will still be around. My condolences to the family, she was so young.

Posted by Adam_Monroe on July 3, 2008 at 7:01 p.m. (Suggest removal)

Like I said before...dope fiend friends...tragedy indeed...with friends like these, who needs enemies? Right?

Panic or not...not half-way intelligent person would just leave their dead or dying friend on a dirt road like a dead DOG...

Disgusting...I hope she rest in peace...I know her friend(s) wont be...

Posted by cventuraj on July 5, 2008 at 8:43 a.m. (Suggest removal)

Rubberbandball - I hope you and your friends have found Kaylin's boyfriend and convinced him to take his story to the authorities and her family. His "love" was obviously not strong enough at the time to overcome his fear, but maybe now he can tell her poor family what happened so that they can begin the healing process. I hope the senseless loss of Kaylin's life scares him and many others straight. If not, I hope she comes back and haunts the crap out of the lot of you!

Posted by eleanorloveslucy on July 5, 2008 at 11:09 a.m. (Suggest removal)

Kaylin was my best friend. She lived in Texas for the first half of her life, then moved to California, then I met her when she moved back to Texas at the age of 14 (just days before her 15th birthday). She ended up moving back to California just a couple of days after I turned 17 (about 8 months later), but despite the distance, we stayed close. Our friendship actually strengthened after she left. I've had a few of her friends in California reach out to me in the past couple of days, and I can tell all of you that her REAL friends didn't do this to her.

Her GRANDFATHER came to my house to tell us on Thursday. Wrap your mind around that, imagine having to go to your granddaughter's best friend's house to tell her that your precious grandchild is gone. They say no parent should have to bury their child, well, no grandparent should have to bury their grandchild.

Kaylin was the most loving and gracious person you could ever meet and I want everyone to know that. I don't want anyone to think that she was just another junkie wasting air. She was a sister, a daughter, a granddaughter, and a best friend. She was a DJ, she loved life, she loved the rave scene. She was going to be my maid of honor.

My heart feels empty, my soul feels like a plastic shell, the warmth is gone, and so many tears have been shed and so many more are yet to come. I'm angry, I'm lost, I'm scared...I've lost the one person I could tell anything and everything. I've lost my best friend.

Posted by dennismathews on July 5, 2008 at 7:55 p.m. (Suggest removal)

My name is Dennis Mathews I'm Kaylins grandfather
Kay lived with her grandmother(Carolyn) and me about a year when she attended high school here, a little town in the Texas panhandle called Fritch.
We all became very close. Kay and I used to talk
at great length about life and the problems that
haunted her. During this time we learned a lot about one another and our love for each grew.
Kay has(I cant bring myself to use the past tense)a lively sense of homor and kept Carolyn and me laughing constantly.Kay believed in GOD and accepted Christ as her personal savior so I know that she is in the presence of the HEAVENLY FATHER and surrounded by his ultimate pure love that she could have never reach on this old earth. All of us in her family and friends will miss her more than words could ever express. Thank all of you for your outpouring of love,concern,and kind words. May the LORD bless,
protect,and guide you and your family.

Posted by eleanorloveslucy on July 6, 2008 at 6:28 a.m. (Suggest removal)

Dennis,

This is Amanda, you came to my house and told my boyfriend Daniel. I know you guys exchanged numbers, but I'd like to ask you to please keep us updated with funeral/burial plans. When you're ready to talk, I'd like to talk with you. I want to tell you all about the Kaylin that her uncle seems to think is so different from the one that you guys all knew, because I disagree.

Kaylin did believe in God and even if her beliefs were unconventional, as are mine, I believe whole-heartedly she's found eternal peace.

Please, keep me informed. I won't miss her funeral for the world.

Posted by texaunt on July 6, 2008 at 8:54 a.m. (Suggest removal)

Kaylin is my niece. Her Family loves her dearly, and she will be missed more than word can say.

These last few days have been unreal the way that her Family has been treated. It’s been seven days and her Mom has not been allowed to see her daughter. All she has asked was just to see her child’s face and hold her one last time finally grasping perhaps that she is really gone.
I can not believe how heartless her family has been treated.

Kaylin best friend in Texas said after her death that she was angry, lost and scared. This event has affected other young children in our family in much the same manner.

To the person or persons that dumped her out and calls themselves friends??????
I can only hope that this tragedy will get kids everywhere to take really long look at them and think. And ask: Would these “so called friends” dump me out on the road when I needed help, the way they did Kaylin? And ask: Are these the type of people I should involve in my own life

I can only hope that this young life was not lost in vane, and this is a wake up call to the ones that are truly her friends and other kids in the world.
Plus I hope this haunts all of her “so called friends” that dump her out to die for the rest of their days.

I can only pray also that the police get to the truth of what happened, so that charges are brought against these monsters that dumped Kaylin and left her alone to die.

Aunt, Linda

Posted by eleanorloveslucy on July 6, 2008 at 9:32 a.m. (Suggest removal)

I want charges brought against those who left her, too. I don't care if panic or whatever got the best of them, if it was ME in that situation, Kaylin might still be alive. And if she wasn't, well, at least she would've had a fighting chance. Actions have consequences and if your actions lead to the death of somebody, you better believe your consequence is going to be great. Even if the truth never gets completely uncovered, God knows, and they will get their just desserts.

I've made it a lifelong goal, even if it takes me until I'm 85, Kaylin's death won't be in vain.

Posted by hometownaunt56 on July 6, 2008 at 9:29 p.m. (Suggest removal)

Kaylin, I will miss you. I got to be there when you were born and I am sadden at your passing. I believe you are in the presence of Jesus with your Nanny having a wonderful reunion.
I hope that those who called themselves your friends will take a long look at what kind of human being they are and those that are in that crowd will see how they respond when one of them are in trouble.
God is the one whom they will be the most accountable when all is said and done even though he forgives. I hope they have learned something before it ever happens again. May justice be done.
Young people would these friends be there for you if you got in trouble?
We ask our Lord Jesus for comfort and healing for those who are hurting the most who truely loved and cared for you.

Posted by rbmg on July 7, 2008 at 9:48 a.m. (Suggest removal)

this just saddens my heart..my prayers to her family and real friends...

Posted by OrngAnglsSister on July 7, 2008 at 8:39 p.m. (Suggest removal)

First I would like to extend my condolences to Kaylin's family. I myself lost my youngest sister (she was 15), so I truely know what it's like to go through loosing a sibling/child.

Second to everyone who has left comments in regards to what happened to Kaylin. I am not going point fingers and lash out on anyone, I would just like to kindly point out to please watch what you say on here and what you speculate. Kaylin's family is most likely reading these posts daily, if not by the hour. This is the hardest thing her family will ever have to go through and when people start throwing out their theories as to what happened to this young lady, it tends to take a larger toll on the family. Where you might feel you are highlighting the subject of young adults and drug use to make an awareness of the issue, the family could possibly take that as an attack on their daughter's character. I know that is not how you mean it, but during this time of great greif, sorrow and loss, things do get misconstrued. I mean from what I gather from the article the authorities say that Kaylin's death "possibly involed drugs". This does not mean that she did in fact overdose. So until the coroner and family gets the confirmed toxicology reports (which can take several weeks some times) lets discontinue the accusations that Kaylin was on drugs. Remember that this investigation is only in the preliminary stages.

Please just stick to the facts and the wishes of support for the family. That is what will help the most for Kaylin's family during this time of loss and change.

It is nice to see an overwhelming love and support for a beautiful young woman who's life was tragically cut short.