According to some studies, communication between people is more that 50 percent nonverbal. That being the case, we all should take a moment to make sure we are not unintentionally sending out the wrong messages.

1. The eyes are the windows to the soul. They display what your heart is feeling. Look deeply into your partner's eyes when you are having a conversation, whether it's simple or serious.

2. Pay attention to your body position and posture. Leaning forward and facing your loved one unconsciously communicates receptiveness and interest. Turning away or staring off into space says you're not really there.

3. A gentle squeeze of the hand or a touch on the arm while listening says you are hearing your mate and you empathize.

4. Your face speaks volumes. A frown or an eye roll communicate judgment. Don't let your face speak before for you. Notice how just a nod can send a message of encouragement or, if done in a negative manner, disapproval.

5. Avoid distractions. If you are not fully focused on whomever you are trying to connect with, he or she will notice you are not completely engaged in the conversation. This sends the message you don't care.

6. Shaking hands can send a powerful message. For example, the two-handed shake expresses deep sincerity, a high five shows mutual approval, and a sincere grip inspires trust. Avoid a limp or cupped handshake; it will make the other person question the connection.

7. Be aware of personal space. Some people need as much as 3 feet between themselves and the person they are talking to. In intimate relationships, this distance could make someone feel unloved. If you don't know what's comfortable for the other person, just ask.

8. Gestures can mean different things to different people. Waving your hand can say, "Good to see you," in some cultures; in others, it can express something derogatory. Learn to be sensitive to how people interpret your movements.

9. Smells, clothing and color choices all send messages. Pay attention to how others react to your style and make sure you're not sending unintentional messages.

10. If you really want to get a good read on how you come across to others, tape yourself talking. If you don't like something you see, you have the power to change it.

Becoming aware of your ability to communicate nonverbally can stop molehills from becoming mountains and can help you navigate the most challenging conversations.

— Westlake Village therapist Barton Goldsmith can be reached at 818-879-9996 or via e-mail at Barton@BartonGoldsmith.com. Hear him live on KCLU Radio, 88.3FM, from 2 to 3 p.m. Mondays.