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Dear Dr. Fournier:

Final exams are always a battle at my home. My eighth-grade daughter studies every night past midnight, and I worry that she doesn't get enough rest. My sixth-grade son says he can't study because the teacher has not told him what is on the test. My ninth-grade son doesn't think his finals should disrupt his life and studies only when his social calendar allows time. How can I bring sanity back into my house?

ASSESSMENT

One of my yearly rituals is to write a column this time of year, answering questions from parents who want to know how to best help their children prepare for final exams. Parents could avoid these questions by working with their children from first day of school.

Because of procrastination, this last-minute madness continues as each semester winds down. Parenting is a full-time job, and as our children get older, it becomes harder for a parent to help each child.

While your children have different symptoms, they actually face a similar issue — final exam preparation — and resolve it in their own way. Your children may demonstrate excessiveness, passiveness or avoidance in their exam preparation, but the real problem is their perspective of learning. This is one of the most prevalent issues facing our educational institutions.

There is a major misconception held by teachers, parents and students alike, that the goal of school is simple memorization and regurgitation. An education like this doesn't teach students to think creatively. A degree from this learning system isn't worth the paper it is written on in today's global workplace.

WHAT TO DO

Like most students, your children don't understand the difference between "studying" and "learning." Can you solve your dilemma this semester? No, but you can make a decision for next semester that will change the rest of their lives.

Here are the rules:

- When your children come home from school each day, they are not to do their homework; they are to learn it. This radical change of perspective allows them to understand and "own" knowledge, as opposed to merely memorizing it.

- Homework is not complete until students prove that they would be able to make a good grade on a surprise quiz the next day. They can do this by giving you a lecture (without notes) or writing a mock test to be taken two hours after they finish.

- Every test, quiz or homework grade should be on the refrigerator, next to a list of what they missed. They will learn this material later in the week or on the weekend.

This is very simple, but too many parents and students don't make the distinction between memorizing and learning. Learning is the first step toward receiving an education, a requirement for someone who wants to have an independent, significant life and who wants to become a leader.

- Write to Dr. Yvonne Fournier, Fournier Learning Strategies Inc., 5900 Poplar, Memphis, Tenn. 38119. E-mail her at drfournier@hfhw.net