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By SCOTT FRIEDMAN

Slowing Down to Move Faster

Posted 2:20 p.m., June 10, 2008

Slowing Down to Move Faster



To master anything in life requires we embrace the paradox of it. To love better we need to be more detached. To thrive financially we need to be focused on things other than money. To have great relationsips we need to be willing to lose them if that's what happens when we speak the truth. To progress faster we need to be centered and focused in the stillness of the moment.



As things in our life change faster and faster; people are born and die, markets and careers come and go, beliefs and attitudes of mind change, our own health changes; to thrive we must be more and more focused on the stillness and sense of competeness within us. This affords us an optimum level of detachment to see things more clearly as well as the detachment to let go of that which we've out grown.



Most everyone reading this knows our progress in life is a result of our attitudes of mind; the thoughts and perspectives we "entertain". We know that to progress and evolve these thoughts and perspectives must evolve as well; change. The more we focus on specific perspectives and attitudes, the more we fuel them staying fixed, and there by retard our progress. To maximize our flexibility to change and grow as appropriate we must focus on that which never could change; the loving stillness within us. Weather we describe it as emptiness or fullness matters not.



The common question that arises at this point is "without attachment how do we have focus and direction in life?". There is an inherent natural order in life that exists without our having to do anything. The sun comes up every single morning. Similarly, as hard as it is for many to believe, being focused on the loving stillness within opens the door to unfettered receipt and action on inspiration. This can be done while still being focused on being still. Even better, limiting behavior to inspired acts increases both efficiency and effectiveness astronomically... Hard to believe, I know. I and others that have tried this have verified it in our own lives. My bills still get paid on time, my dogs still get fed twice a day, my clients still get their loans funded on time, and my wife still gets her coffee in the morning. Life gets done "better" being focused on the loving stillness within.



The hard decisions I used to agonize over like "is this worth spending money on?" and "should I accept this responsibility?" are easily dealt with. I need only ask now, what is consistent with a loving peaceful state? Do I feel a loving joy around doing this or not? I have yet to regret a decision I've made on this basis. What about when we're not in a loving peaceful state to make a decision from? My belief and practice is to do my best to refuse to make any decision until I'm in that centered state because I know decisions made in fear and anger are bad decisions.



So, being focused in stillness and a sense of wholeness results in faster growth and change, which comes from better decisions, which come from clear inspriations received best in a state of stillness and wholeness.



Once again, glad to be reminding us all of what we always knew.



Scott Friedman

Mortgage Broker

(Including Reverse Mortgages)



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